Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Cancer Etiquette, version 2.0

After the last post, I received so many responses on email, facebook and twitter I knew that I was on the right track. I heard some even better comments (funny, inappropriate, wicked; they run the gamut) but don’t want to stay focused on the negative stuff. My response to all of those comments was to just laugh out loud, and then usually call my friends so we could laugh together.

This time, I am going to share with you some of the things I was told that are the RIGHT things to say. They are wonderful, poignant and perfect and I will remember them forever.

“Don’t be scared, Mommy.” – my daughter Alexandra, who was 10 years old at the time

“We love you. We will be your support, your comfort, your family.” – Vera Bradley Designs, a card attached to a bouquet of flowers

“I know you said don’t come, that you don’t need help around the house. Shut it.” – Debbie and Lilly, who drove 5 hours one way to take my kids to the park and clean my kitchen

“Of course we can do this. Don’t be scared.” – Dr. George Sledge, oncologist/hero/gift from God

“She’s crying because she’s been through a lot. Leave her alone.” – Dr. Robert Goulet, breast surgeon/hero/gift from God

“I’m not ready for you to leave me yet.” – my husband

“I know mommy isn’t feeling well, honey. Why don’t you tell me about your day at school?” – Barbara and Glenna, who called my house regularly to make sure we were all ok

“You still look beautiful to me.” – my father-in-law, upon seeing my bald head in the hospital

“I don’t know what I can do, but I’m coming anyway.” – my sister Heather, who flew cross country just to hang out for awhile

“I am so proud of you, and your mom would be, too.” – my daddy

“Like we would let you go through this alone. Please.” – my boss and coworker, Cheri and Stephanie, who came with me to my first chemo treatment

“Trust me. I love you.” – God

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